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Twenty years ego, I remember rushing to the Madras Central Station to catch a train to Andhra for a shoot. It was almost time for the train to move. But when I noticed that a senior artiste was also traveling by the same train, I ran across to his compartment and whole heartedly greeted him.

The artiste turned towards me, merely nodded and turned away from me to continue speaking to someone else. I was a little taken aback and felt uncomfortable. I waited for him to look towards me for at least a moment so that I could take leave. But he did not. I walked back to my compartment nursing a deep hurt.

Several years after the incident, on the occasion of the 100th day celebrations of one of my films, keeping with my wishes a journalist friend took the initiative and gathered all affected families of cotton growers so that some monetary help could be given to them.

After the function, my people informed me that my journalist friend was deeply hurt as I had not called him on the dais and thanked him for his services, in front of the audience.

My first reaction was that it was not my intention to avoid him or ignore him. Though I was unaware of his desire, I realized he was justified.

The incident actually set me thinking. Twenty years ago when the senior artiste seemed to ignore me in the train, he was probably discussing something very important with the person sitting next to him.

May be his action in ignoring me was unintentional, just as it was not my intention to ignore the efforts of the journalist. This realization dissolved any kind of hurt that I would have been nursing in my heart because of the senior artiste's behavior then.

The action of a person may seen offending. But understand the intention. If someone is ignorant of having hurt you, then ignore the happening and if the action is intentional then ignore the person. This way you exercise a choice and can choose not to feel hurt.

You can see that I was not born with such wisdom. I guess over the years, various interactions and situations helped me evolve as an individual. To day, I attempt to understand rather than instantly conclude.

PS: Chiranjeevi wrote this article for Times of India on 13th Feb 2003.

Courtesy : Times of India

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